tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2534989586275019459.post1674424079599073224..comments2023-05-04T23:39:38.320+10:00Comments on Bitter/Sweet: War Of My WorldSummastarlethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10873371748864027299noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2534989586275019459.post-24186673752825268252011-03-06T15:00:46.968+10:002011-03-06T15:00:46.968+10:00Oh sweetie, HUGS. She knows what you've been t...Oh sweetie, HUGS. She knows what you've been through because she's been there. It's completely okay for you to feel the way you do. I'm beyond excited for a fellow IFer's baby shower next Sunday, but I am starting Lupron on Friday and I'm kind of fearing this is going to backfire on me. Something about baby showers is a huge trigger and it's hard to just put our feelings aside to get through it. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself, and your friends will understand. <3Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14598158572760263482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2534989586275019459.post-63731797766997130112011-03-06T06:27:26.973+10:002011-03-06T06:27:26.973+10:00I completely understand what you're through.....I completely understand what you're through... it's so hard to go to a baby shower - and I've missed plenty b/c I just didn't think that I'd be able to hold it together. Having shared the start of your journey together, I'm sure she'd understand xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2534989586275019459.post-24895676996363899142011-03-06T02:43:06.557+10:002011-03-06T02:43:06.557+10:00I can only agree with what the above commenter has...I can only agree with what the above commenter has said. You take all the time you need, I am sure your friend understands this, especially as, if it is the friend I am thinking of, she has been through some of it herself. <br /><br />Look after yourself honey, give yourself the time and space that you need to grieve without beating yourself up over it.<br /><br />Take Care xxx<br /><br />PS Gradually the days that you lose and the days that you win will even out, and eventually you will find that you win more than you lose. It is a long hard process but you will get there xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2534989586275019459.post-59940072207173761962011-03-06T01:42:51.415+10:002011-03-06T01:42:51.415+10:00I can understand the pangs of guilt. I've felt...I can understand the pangs of guilt. I've felt them, too, as I've shed tears over pregnancies my sisters have had since my husband and I have been in treatments. I love them and am ecstatic about each new blessing, but the emptiness and pain are also very real and I think it's important to acknowledge and work through exactly as you are doing.<br /><br />I know you feel there are some should's in terms of being physically present at your friend's shower. But consider these as well:<br /><br />You *should* allow yourself whatever time you need to work through this terrible loss. The IVF and miscarriage is a major ordeal that most do not have to endure. <br /><br />You *should* take care of both your physical and emotional health. That includes guarding your heart against additional pain.<br /><br />You *should* acknowledge and give yourself the credit that you carefully considered your friend as well, and did not want to cause her worry on top of your pain.<br /><br />You *should* know that you are amazingly strong woman for continuing on as you have.<br /><br />I think you are a tremendous woman, deserving of support and admiration.Baby Hopeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12247685343284672194noreply@blogger.com